BECOMING: A Journey Into Purpose, Influence, and Destiny
BECOMING: Becoming Who You’re Meant to Be, Attracting
the Right Attention, and Managing the Seasons of Life
By
Kayode Qudus Olugbasa
Table
of Contents
- Introduction
- Chapter One: The Power of Occupying and Watching
- Chapter Two: Getting Attention from the Right Men
- Chapter Three: Who You Follow Determines What Follows
You
- Chapter Four: Secure Men Marry Strong Women
- Chapter Five: How to Attract a Great Mother’s Voice in
Your Life
- Chapter Six: Speaking Before the Great
- Chapter Seven: Beware of Competitive Colleagues
- Chapter Eight: Life Happens in Seasons
- Chapter Nine: Glory Management — What to Do Before
Glory Comes
- Chapter Ten: Preparing for Success, Breakthrough, and
Elevation
- Chapter Eleven: Managing Seasons and Transitions
- Chapter Twelve: Walking with the Right People
- Chapter Thirteen: Meeting the Person You Should Become
- Final Thoughts
Introduction
There’s a version of you that
already exists in the future — powerful, wise, fulfilled, and glorious. But
before you meet her, you must become her. This book is a practical guide to
help you occupy your space, gain the right attention, walk
with the wise, and navigate the different seasons of life with
wisdom and strength.
Chapter
One: The Power of Occupying and Watching
To occupy means to take up
space intentionally. Watching means being alert, spiritually,
emotionally, and mentally. You cannot change what you don’t observe, and you
cannot dominate what you don’t understand.
- Be present in every room.
- Pay attention to patterns in your life and others.
- Learn the power of discernment.
“Occupy till I come…” — Luke 19:13
Before anything changes, you must first learn to stay, to watch, and to
prepare.
Chapter
Two: Getting Attention from the Right Men
Not every man deserves your light.
Attracting attention is not hard, but attracting the right attention is
intentional.
- Don’t seek attention, carry value.
- A woman of purpose magnetizes meaningful attention.
- Your confidence, boundaries, and voice set the
standard.
Remember: You don’t need many eyes,
just the right one.
Chapter
Three: Who You Follow Determines What Follows You
Your life reflects your influences.
Your mentor, pastor, coach, or even online inspiration can shape your destiny.
- Follow people whose fruit match their talk.
- Be intentional — study those who’ve walked the path you
admire.
- Unfollow noise. Follow impact.
“When the blind leads the blind,
both fall into a ditch.” — Matthew 15:14
Choose your leaders carefully. They’re pulling your future along with theirs.
Chapter
Four: Secure Men Marry Strong Women
Michelle Obama said:
“Strong men, men who are truly role
models, don't need to put down women to feel powerful. They’re secure enough to
be with a powerful woman.”
A man’s security is tested by a
woman’s strength.
- Don’t shrink to be chosen.
- Real love celebrates your shine.
- Wait for a man whose masculinity is not threatened by
your destiny.
Chapter
Five: How to Attract a Great Mother’s Voice in Your Life
You don’t choose your biological
mother, but you can attract spiritual mothers or mentors.
- Be humble, teachable, and honourable.
- A great mother is a covering — she corrects and
prepares.
- Don’t walk alone. Find a voice with depth and history.
You grow faster under a womb of
wisdom.
Chapter
Six: Speaking Before the Great
The Bible says:
“Seest thou a man diligent in his
business? He shall stand before kings…” — Proverbs 22:29
How do you speak before the great?
- Know when to speak, and when to be silent.
- Prepare. Study. Practice your communication.
- Know your identity before entering any room.
Chapter
Seven: Beware of Competitive Colleagues
Not every colleague is a comrade.
Some are competitors in disguise.
- Don’t overshare your dreams.
- Keep your moves quiet until they mature.
- Discern envy early, and avoid subtle sabotage.
Work with people, but trust God
alone with your vision.
Chapter
Eight: Life Happens in Seasons
Life is not a sprint; it’s a journey
in seasons.
- There’s a planting season — sow in tears.
- There’s a watering season — serve others.
- There’s a harvest season — rejoice, but don’t forget
the process.
Knowing the season helps you respond
correctly. Don’t compare your planting season with someone else’s harvest.
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How to Manage Life When Seasons Change
1.
Discern the Season You Are In
“To everything there is a season…” –
Ecclesiastes 3:1
Before you can manage a season, you
must know what season it is.
- Dry Season
– Things feel slow, silent, or delayed.
- Planting Season
– Time to invest, build, and work without immediate reward.
- Waiting Season
– Time to trust God and be still.
- Harvest Season
– Time to gather the rewards of past labour.
- Wilderness Season
– Time of testing and spiritual growth.
Ask yourself: What is life teaching me right now? What is being required
of me?
2.
Adjust Your Expectations
You can’t expect a harvest
when you’re in a planting season.
- Don’t compare your now with someone’s later.
- Celebrate small wins. Big ones are being built.
- Be patient with the process.
3.
Stay Flexible, Not Fearful
Change is uncomfortable but
necessary for growth.
- Be willing to evolve.
- Let go of what no longer serves your next level.
- Allow yourself to grieve old seasons but don’t stay
stuck in them.
4.
Stay Rooted in God and Purpose
When everything is changing, God
remains constant.
- Keep a prayer life.
- Seek divine direction before making big decisions.
- Study the Word—it gives you peace and perspective in
every season.
5.
Nurture Your Mental & Emotional Health
Seasons bring emotional shifts—take
care of your inner life.
- Journal your thoughts and reflections.
- Speak to wise counselors or mentors.
- Protect your peace. Not everyone should have access to
your transition.
6.
Reevaluate Relationships
Some relationships are seasonal,
not eternal.
- Who adds value to your life in this new season?
- Who drains you or keeps you tied to the past?
- Walk with those aligned with your current journey.
7.
Update Your Goals
Your goals should evolve as your
season changes.
- What worked last season may not work now.
- Be open to new strategies and timelines.
- Review, reset, and realign.
8.
Stay Productive, Not Just Busy
Don't let uncertainty make you
inactive. Move with purpose.
- Do one thing daily that pushes you forward.
- Rest, but don’t quit.
- Be fruitful even in silent seasons.
9.
Manage Resources Wisely
Each season comes with its own resource
demands.
- Save in harvest, sow in drought.
- Learn new skills in waiting seasons.
- Use downtime to prepare for uptime.
10.
Trust God’s Timing
“He makes all things beautiful in
its time.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11
Sometimes, a delayed season is a
protected one.
- What feels like a setback may be divine redirection.
- God knows what’s ahead—even when you don’t.
- Learn to trust, even when you don’t understand.
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Final Encouragement:
You are not stuck. You are being
shifted.
Don’t panic when seasons change. The
winter prepares you for spring. The pruning makes room for new fruit. The
silence strengthens your faith.
Mastering the season is the key to
mastering your destiny.
Chapter
Nine: Glory Management — What to Do Before Glory Comes
Before greatness comes preparation.
- Glory will expose everything hidden — character, pride,
or purpose.
- Build a prayer life, develop your skills.
- Practice solitude. Fame is loud, but destiny is birthed
in silence.
Glory must find you ready, not
empty.
Chapter
Ten: Preparing for Success, Breakthrough, and Elevation
What must you do?
- Obey divine instructions.
- Develop capacity — mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
- Connect with destiny helpers.
Before success shows up, sow
consistency.
Chapter
Eleven: Managing Seasons and Transitions
Transitions are where many people
give up.
- Stay rooted even when the season feels dry.
- Don’t confuse discomfort with misdirection.
- Trust the process — God does His best work in the
wilderness.
Grace is available for every season,
but wisdom is required to manage it.
Chapter
Twelve: Walking with the Right People
Your tribe determines your vibe.
- Walk with people who sharpen your vision.
- Don’t walk with those who mock your dreams.
- Protect your circle like your life depends on it —
because it does.
Every Ruth needs a Naomi. Every
David needs a Jonathan.
Chapter
Thirteen: Meeting the Person You Should Become
You are not just becoming
successful; you are becoming you.
- Spend time in reflection.
- Discover your strengths, passions, and divine
assignments.
- Become before you perform.
The version of you that holds the
breakthrough you desire must be built, not wished into existence.
Final
Thoughts
Your life is not random. Everything
matters. Who you follow, who you marry, what you say, how you move, and what you
become — it all leads to destiny.
Don’t just exist. Occupy. Watch.
Choose wisely. Speak purposefully. Manage glory. And above all, become the
woman God created you to be.
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